Monica Plus 2
How One Blind Date Can Change Your Life-The Story Of Us.
Updated: Mar 16, 2022
Today is exactly 14 years since the day we met and I realized not many know how it all happened. How my now husband of 10 years and I met many moons ago. My good friend Naza from sweet.p.and.sky recently posted a blog sharing how her and her husband met and I really enjoyed reading her story.. you should check it out How To Meet Your Future Husband At A Dodger Game.
When I finished reading her story and starting thinking about ours I realized something. Some parts were getting blurry and I had to think long and hard to remember some details. Thats when I decided that even if not one person ever read this, it was ok. At least we will have it to look back on when we are old and senile...so here it goes.
It was the holiday season, I was 25 years old, in my first semester of nursing school, living in my aunts house and in a 4 year relationship. Well that relationship ended before the semester did and I was heartbroken. You know that feeling when you think everything is falling apart and you don't know how you will make it to the next day, yup that was me. Luckily, I had lots of support from my family who were there to console me with food and late night cheesy movies... you guys know who you are. I've never been one to give up easily and with my first semester of nursing school almost coming to an end I knew I had to suck it up and focus. I decided to really put all my energy into finishing the semester and moving on.
I had made new friends in nursing school and one in particular was very adamant about me going out and meeting new people now that I was single. I had no real desire to meet anyone but she insisted I meet her best friends husbands best friend. I'll give you a minute to process that one. Anyways, I decided, heck why not! I knew nothing about the guy I was to meet. All I knew was that he was 28 years old and liked to have fun. I was going on my first blind date and surprisingly wasn't nervous at all. After all, it was more of a group date. Worst case scenario I would meet the guy and hang out with my friend the rest of the night. I wasn't nervous until the day came, December 23rd 2006. It had been exactly 2 weeks since my breakup and I had no expectations and most certainly was not looking to jump into any relationship. All I wanted was to go out, keep my mind busy, and destress from a long semester of school.
My friend and I drove together to her friends house where I would meet THE guy. As we started walking towards the door I could see a male shadow walking towards that same door and she whispered, thats him! The guy was tall, dark curly hair, with dark features and was dressed nice. I was immediately physically attracted to him and was relieved he was cute and seemed nice. Of course they all made it awkward when we first met. I'm naturally shy when Im out of my comfort zone but it was nothing some music and drinks couldn't fix.
That night we all went out to a bar in Hollywood and as much as I've tried I cant remember the name. Anyways, my blind date was easy to talk to, a total gentlemen, attentive, and paid for my entrance and drinks the whole night. Normally I would have not cared about that but as I said, I was an unemployed full time nursing student at the time, so it was very much appreciated.
I cant remember exactly how it happened but my friend took a picture with his phone which she then asked him to send to me and somehow managed to get my number in his phone...very smart move lol. The night ended with just a simple goodbye and he said he would call me. Yes he was cute, I had a great time but again, I had no expectations. I was still very much hurt and let down by the male species.
He called me after Christmas, we talked some, and he invited me out on a real date. We went to the Yardhouse in Long Beach...at least I still remember that lol. We continued dating here and there but nothing serious until about 4 months later, April 2007. By then I had gotten to know him better and had really started to like him. There was just one problem... he was being a little inconsistent with calling. Worked out well in the beginning since I was busy with school but as my feelings started to grow so did my dislike for those far apart visits and phone calls.
*These are some of the few pictures I have of when we were just dating. Couple years ago my laptop got a virus and I was only able to recover a random few...=(
It was then that I decided to have the talk with him. We were either going to move forward or we were just going to go our separate ways. I've never been one to play games and was not looking to waste any of my time so it had to be done. Luckily, I didn't scare him away and from there on out he's called me every single day. By June 2007 we were official, one year later 2008 I was officially no longer a nursing student and was a Licensed Registered Nurse, December of 2008 we started looking for a house, December 24th 2008 he asked me to marry him and December 31st of that same year we got the keys to our first home together. June 2010 we got married and my greatest gift of all came February 2012.
Remember how in the beginning I said I felt as though my life was falling apart? Well it wasn't actually falling apart but falling into place. Of course It didn't feel like it at the moment, but looking back thats when my life went from a standstill to finally moving in the right direction. As cliche as it sounds I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. I would not change a single thing about my life during those pre hubby years because I learned so much from it all. I learned exactly what I didn't want, what I did want, and what I deserved.
Now I can say it because he's my husband who I adore. That blind date/ rebound guy turned out to be the love of my life. Who would have thought! Later I found out he had no idea he was going to meet anyone that day and if he would have known he wouldn't have showed up. He had no idea he would be meeting his future wife. Funny how things work out sometimes isn't it?
Of course our life hasn't been all sunshines and rainbows but it's a life I'm very proud of. We have our beautiful daughter, our little home and we have each other. So if you are reading this and life isn't going exactly as you want it to just remember this, sometimes when you feel like your life is falling apart it's actually falling into place. So take that chance, achieve that goal or maybe even go on that bling date! Hang in there, you got this.
If you've read all the way to the end, thanks for reading our story...or my version of it at least. Happy Holiday!
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